People with mental disorders or past abuse have their own set of boundaries to help protect them from further damage, its is through sticking to these boundaries that keeps them safe. IF someone tries to change these boundaries then gets upset with you then thats their problem not yours. Your first priority is keeping YOU safe regardless of its affect on other people.
So if another person questions these boundaries they dont understand the reasons behind you having them, its not their fault, they have just never been there. Let them go, if there worth it they will come back, if not then they are not meant to be in your life.
Its hard to explain to someone who hasnt been abused, traumatized, beaten, or suffered a breakdown what its like to have on, so at the same time as them not understanding we have to not judge them either as they just dont know.
So never apologise for having "Healthy boundaries" around your personal safety for "wellbeing purposes" and never put yourself down if you dont stick to them once in a while.
Its while stepping out of these boundaries that we learn that life isnt so scary after all, but there is no problem running back into your "cave" or "Safe Place" every so often to recuperate and recharge before going out again ! Giant leaps begin with tiny steps .... Claire Jones