One of the topic that Tony Robbins, the Master coach and Strategic Interventionist, covers in his programs is the “Crazy Eight”.
Understanding the Crazy Eight can help you break out of addictive or unhelpful patterns of thinking and/or behavior.
In brief, the emotional pattern of alternating between sadness and anger is called a crazy-eight. Many people live most of their lives alternating between these two emotions.
The person experiencing a crazy-eight might start by getting really sad and helpless over an issue (job, marriage etc..). However, when this sadness begins to make them feel too weak OR when they stop feeling sorry for themselves, they snap out of it with anger. This makes him/her feel strong for short time. But then the human body cannot remain angry all the time OR it gets tired of being angry OR they realize that anger is not gettingthe anywhere; so they goes back to connecting with themselves and to feeling sad again. Then they get tired of that OR feels that self pity is not going to get them out of this situation. So they get angry again and so the Crazy Eight goes around again.
This is a very simple pattern, and it’s not unique.
Do you experience this? Do you know how to get out of it? It is easy when you know how.
1. Find out about your 6 human needs and put them in order of importance. Certainty ~ the need for stability safety and comfort
Variety ~ the need for Stimulus and Change
Significance ~ the need to be Special and Worthy of attention
Connection and love ~ to be connected with others, love and be loved
Growth ~ the need to develop and expand and grow as an individual
Contribution ~ the need to give over and above yourself to the bigger community and world
2. Prioritize them (i.e. rank them in order of importance to you).
3. Determine how you are meeting your top 3 needs.
4. Think and determine how the crazy eight is meeting these needs.
5. Is this pattern (the crazy eight) making you feel important (SIGNIFICANT) to those who love you? Do you get more attention (CONNECTION) from others? Does it offer CERTAINTY of attention? Is it exciting at times, hence providing VARIETY? Or CERTAINTY in failure keeps you in your comfort zone?
6. It is said that if a behavior meets at least 3 out of 6 human needs it becomes addictive. And unless determined action is taken it will be very difficult to break out of it.
7. So take the determined action. Understand your needs and then find a new and better way of meeting your top 3 needs. DROP the crazy eight and move on with your life. The Choice is yours…