This is going to sound harsh, but im afraid it has to in order to sink in.There is a massive, huge, never ending shortage of help right now for people suffering or living with mental health disorders, depression, PTSD, depression caused by illness, and depression of carers who are never endingly put in charge of dealing with an unwell partner, parent or child all because of NHS cuts in mental health services, wellfare, benefits, services, protecting vulnerable adults and so on.
Some people are luckier than others in that they can work out why the Mental Health Services are treating them badly, they can see why its not them that is in the wrong that it is not them who are unworthy of help but for some this is not the case.
Some people see Suicide attempts as a cry for help and some as a way out of their continued torture, the problem is, I reckon if everyone just hung on in there for a while longer, it may be a month, two months, two years, 12 yrs their contribution to themselves and their community could end up with them living a happier life. At one point the only reason I kept on was because of the ability to help others. I read a scroll by the Dalai Lama about having a precious human life and how if I couldnt be happy for myself how maybe I could use what I have to help other people be happy instead. I still have depression but at least now I feel useful.
However with most things, there is a roulette of chance, one day it might go wrong, like I think it did for Robin Williams I dont think he really wanted to die, I think he made a last ditch attempt to have the decision made for him by a higher power whether he lived or died and unfortunately his roulette wheel spun a black.
This week I have had more problems with Mental Health services not providing care, not admitting to mis diagnosis and not helping me when i needed it and it lead me to write this post so others dont feel alone, its not personal its happening to everyone. Please do not let the treatment of mental health services make you feel worse.
You can always contact SEAP Mental Health Advocacy or MIND charity and ask for help. SEAP can help you liase with the mental health services to get your voice heard. Just google them for info.
Suicide is about prevention, its not about "smoothing over the lines" when its over, because when its over, it really is over, there is no coming back from suicide. There is no second chance, no "lets see if this works", its final its the end.
All I will ask is that if you know someone at risk, talk to them, go around their house even if they dont want you to. Sit with them, help them sleep, talk to them when they want to talk and let them be silent when they need to. Watch a film with them, distract them from suicide, try to get them to eat, try to get them to drink some water, even if only a little.
Time is all it takes, if someone has been drinking alcohol there is absolutely no point in talking to them on the phone, you need to get there in person or get a neighbor to go round.
If they have taken medication get the paramedics around to check their blood or call an ambulance.
Its only a matter of time before they will mix up the wrong potion of pills or alcohol and maybe they didn't really want to die. So PREVENTION please please friends stick together and help prevent rather than react. This will save lives.
I urge you to GOOGLE Mental Health Help, Saneline, MIND, Time to Change, and SEAP speak to people and ask for help. Samaritans are good too.
So, how do we do this ?
This post has come out of an event I attended today. In respect of the whole idea of the event I will not give information as to the details but I will say how difficult it was for me as a person with Aspergers, an Autism Spectrum Disorder and how difficult it was for me to communicate my needs and be taken seriously.
As a result of not being listened to I had to leave and this is not fair on a disabled person who to come out of their cave in the first place and do something that is terribly frightening to them only to be forced back in by people who dont care is beyond belief.
We need to stop this ignorance and when a person with disabilities communicates their needs not to 1, but 2 people it needs to be listened to.
A person with aspergers or an autistic spectrum disorder is severely affected by the light / colours / flashing stuff / heat or cold / new people, and noise.
One or two of these things at once and we can handle it, if we prepare we can do it even better, the more we visualise and the more we know about the situation we are going into the better we function.
I went into the situation knowing the place (id google mapped it) the area (i used to work there) and the people, i even knew the process that the day would take and i went with a freind, however. ....
When i arrived i was split up from my freind, i was put at a table with direct sunlight and along with the noise this lead me to overload.
However just before overload, I asked 2 seperate people to please move me out of the direct sunglight, one said no, and the other didnt really listen to me and just moved my chair slightly.
So as it turned out I lasted 5 minutes, had nothing to eat and left in a frazzld state. Only to bump into the manager of the hotel who was completly arrogant and totally not disabled freindly.
So ive missed a great day and feel sad.
So how do we overcome this ?
I prepared, I told, I asked for help but I wasnt listened to ?
So what is the answer ...... Im asking as I need to know so that I can look at putting together some kind of course in communication for disabled people in Cornwall to get the help they need when mixing within the NT world. please reply to firstname.lastname@example.org